The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon.
Ever wondered why others remember our faults more than our good? Ever wondered why negative events stuck to us more than positive ones? “The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.”
-Psychologist Rick Hanson
Our brain to help us survive, has developed the “negativity bias”. Which means it prefers looking for, reacts to, stores and recalls negative information over positive ones. As most of us will go through moments of life either neutral or positive. It is when something negative happens which will get instantly registered and intensely focused on based on the negativity bias of the brain. Then the get stores in what we call the IMPLICIT MEMORY (responsible for dark, negative experiences) So if it is so difficult to erase negative events, how do we forgive and forget others of their mistakes or wrongdoings? That is the great virtue of a Muslim, as it is not an obligation to forgive but Islam strongly encourages Muslims to practice forgiveness to those who have wronged or committed injustices to them. Allah swt is Al-Ghafoor (the oft forgiving). اللْهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عَفُوٌّ تُحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ فَاعْفُعَنِّي Allahumma innaka `afuwwun tuhibbul `afwa fa`fu `annee “O Allah, You are Pardoning and you love pardon, so pardon me.” (Tirmidhi) #islamicpscyhology #hadyakidsarts #hadya